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Why You Shouldn’t Buy a Wedding Dress™, and What You Should Do Instead

Why You Shouldn’t Buy a Wedding Dress™, and What You Should Do Instead

Look- I’m not saying that traditional wedding dresses aren’t beautiful pieces of high-quality artisanship that are potentially game-changing for one’s self esteem. But the whole process of wedding dress shopping can be so alienating to a lot of people- most often to those with bigger bodies, disabilities, and trans & non-binary folks. Even those with…

Wedding Planning Tips for Spoonies, the Chronically Ill, and Folks Who Just Need a Flippin’ Break

Wedding Planning Tips for Spoonies, the Chronically Ill, and Folks Who Just Need a Flippin’ Break

Wedding planning is exhausting for everyone. But when you’re struggling with a chronic mental or physical illness, or when your life circumstances drain you of all but a few precious slivers of your time and energy, planning a wedding can feel impossible. In the spirit of making this post as spoonie-friendly as possible, I’m going…

Seven Luminous Alternatives to Carrying a Bouquet

Seven Luminous Alternatives to Carrying a Bouquet

I love flowers. Honestly, I do. But they’re so de rigueur for weddings. And seeing celebrants and their wedding parties walk down the aisle holding bundles of flowers can get kind of unexceptional after a while. I get it- there’s an established tradition that says you have to carry something (usually flowers) on your way…

Five Reasons to have a Winter Wedding

Five Reasons to have a Winter Wedding

I firmly believe that Winter weddings are underrated. Of course, there are some undeniable drawbacks to Winter weddings: Some people may find it difficult to attend a wedding after dropping a bunch of money on holiday gifts or travel. Certain outdoor spaces may not be available for your wedding (or if they are, they require…

Seven Glass Clinking Alternatives

Seven Glass Clinking Alternatives

Let me set the scene, here: You just got married. You’re sitting with your new spouse(s) at your reception. Dinner has just been served, and you’re ravenous because you haven’t eaten in ages (possibly since yesterday). You’ve spent the last one to three hours posing for photos, thanking people for coming, putting up with marriage…

Ten Laid-Back Alternatives to the Big White Wedding

Ten Laid-Back Alternatives to the Big White Wedding

Weddings are frustrating. Admittedly, some people (myself included) find planning a big event with lots of minor details fun… but we’re the minority. If most people didn’t find planning a wedding stressful, then planners like myself wouldn’t need to exist. Granted, part of the reason weddings are so stressful for most people is the way…

Why You Should Have a Divorce-Friendly Wedding

Why You Should Have a Divorce-Friendly Wedding

Our view of weddings as a vow people make to each other, to stay together “’til death do us part”, seems to be pretty universal. But does it have to be? Is vowing to stay with someone for the rest of your lives overly optimistic? Presumptuous? Unrealistic? Or is it romantic? For some, maybe it’s…

How to Support Someone who Hated their Wedding

How to Support Someone who Hated their Wedding

To prepare for this trilogy of blogs about wedding disappointment, I went online and looked for real stories (from real newlyweds, mostly brides) who had weddings that didn’t meet their expectations. Wow. Truthfully, it hurt to read these stories. Mainly because the stories themselves were just awful… relationship problems, terrible parents or relatives, bad vendors,…