With the recent news around an expected “Wedding Boom” for the next 2 years, I wanted to address one of the major stigmas associated with weddings.
First, a disclaimer: I am a huge fan of weddings. And what I am writing is in no way intended to reflect negatively on the other fantastic wedding planners in the business. In fact, in all likelihood, I’m a huge fan of yours!
That being said, I saw something a few weeks ago, posted by an Ottawa wedding planning company, that I am finding very difficult to ignore.
They made the assertion that any potential client who shops around for a less expensive wedding planning company or individual is going to “get the service they pay for”. As if that’s a bad thing. And I found that very insulting.
Many celebrants are on a budget. The “norm” is not a couple willing to dish out $60-$70,000 on their wedding day. If they are, I hope they find and use your services. However, the fact that a couple might be looking around in order to stay within their budget is nothing to be ashamed of, nor something anyone has the right to judge them for.
I have branded myself as an affordable alternative to these huge wedding planning businesses, by calling myself a “wedding coordinator” instead of “wedding planner”. I perform many of the same functions, but given the fact that most venues now use in-house planners, I figured it would be much more useful to act as a go-between and schedule venue visits, dress appointments, cake tastings, etc. But I’m versatile, if you need everything planned from the bottom up, I can do that too! It’s what I’m doing for a bride getting married in September 2021.
As we have seen from the couples that did go ahead with weddings during the COVID pandemic, micro/elopement style weddings can be just as incredible and beautiful as 200-person weddings. And they are often more personal, meaningful and memorable.
The bottom line is that I don’t think anyone has the right to judge what the priorities of a newly engaged couple are. Maybe they have decided that the most important thing for their wedding is to be there together and promise to spend the rest of their lives as a single unit. Maybe they have decided that having a beautiful venue, top-of-the-line photographers and videographers, décor up the wazoo, etc., is the most important thing. No one, I repeat, no one, should be allowed to make a couple feel bad for not taking out a second mortgage on their house in order to afford a wedding day. If they chose to do that, that is their decision. And I’d be happy to lend my services to anyone, no matter their priorities. In my humble opinion, as long as the couple is there together, sharing in this beautiful and life-changing moment, in front of their friends and family… it will be a day to remember.
And whether you spend $500 working with me or $5,000 working with someone else, we will both do all we can to make this the most magical day of your lives. That’s a promise.
Aria Kay has been coordinating weddings since 2020 in the Ottawa-Gatineau area. She is completing an MBA and has been directly affected by the start of the “Wedding Boom”, a welcome change from the last summer’s “Wedding Drought” due to the COVID pandemic.